LEARNING AS I GO
This is the first day of my page. I want to welcome you and hope that you might learn too, as you go. Sometimes life is a hard road but, we are given wisdom, providing we ask for it. As we go we learn how to handle it and make it enjoyable. Life is advancing rapidly for us all in this day and age. Knowledge is on the increase while our political system, morals and strong righteous leadership is on a fast decrease. How to handle that is how you see yourself in the picture. Its not just survival, no, its logic and maturity. We can have all the money in the world and still be unhappy. Just take a look at the people that work for those Hollywood studios, screen, and broadways. They have all the glitz and glamour but, their personal lives are a total mess, a shamble. Its sad too, because many children, teenagers and, yep, even adults look to those people for guidance to be their role model in life. Its the blind leading the blind. How sad.
As I sip my tea (and as you drink your tea, coffee, or whatever beverage relaxes you), and I type away on this site, I wonder truly who will read what I have written. Maybe nobody, maybe one person, who knows. I will be typing as often as I can for, not only, myself but, many out there. I don't know if I what I type will help anyone or not but, I do hope so. Maybe to help someone have a better, possibly happier life. Truly, only time will tell. I will publish things as they come to me, I will answer questions to those who ask, unless, to do so would hurt others. I'm not a debater and I will not allow someone to put me in that position. I refuse to argue any points.
People are given FREE WILL to make their own choices in life and I respect that because our creator allows 'free will to all on this earth'. I will not push my opinions on others. If someone doesn't agree with what I have to say, that's okay by me, because I do not have to agree with someone either. That is the whole point of being free. To make one's own choices but, remember this as I will also: We all have to live with the consequences of our choices. And my belief is: In the final analysis of my life, it is between GOD and me, only.
So, I began with, Hello to you all and I hope your day is so far been wonderful (if not you might want to sit and analyze your day thus far and see where it goofed up at). I hope this evening finds you all well and quite happy too! Okay, here I go. I have learned in the last few months (and I laugh as I say this), that not all people will be grateful for the goodwill and love we show them. Nope, in fact, on the contrary. I have learned that some will completely disrespect your generosity and instead show callousness, rudeness, and ungratefulness. It's okay, that's the choice they made. My choice is to immediately forgive and move on with my life (I have to to keep my peace and not be in bondage to anger, bitterness, which leads to hatred). In this recent life's lesson, I remember that there are many people like that in life. They want things for free in life instead of working for it. It doesn't work that way (even though some would 'beg to differ' with me.), at least it is not supposed to. If a person doesn't work, they aren't supposed to be able to eat (but it looks like that is not how it is nowadays. I haven't got one that one together yet in my head because the lazy are rewarded and the working class are penalized. So backwards.). Now, if a person is doing everything they can possibly do to find work......, now that is another topic I will discuss later sometime. I'm talking about the lazy. The ones that seem to act, (or they might be blunt about it) that the people around them owe them a lifestyle of luxury even though they have done nothing to deserve that lifestyle. They are the ones who want to live like Kings and Queens but, do not want to do the hard work to get that lifestyle. They treat everyone around them like servants, drag others down with them. The lazy, are the kind of people who exhaust, exasperate, and irritate others who are good willed, hard working, and earned what they have obtained, to no end. They talk as if they know something but, at end of their speech all that is found in them is they are as bitter. Hmmm, those are the people I want to steer clear of. And yet, it's ironic because I know some personally.
Being angry is one thing but, being bitter is bad. So the lesson learned is do a litte history and research on the person first before opening your life up to them. Some people are meant to be apart of our lives temporarily and we screw it up by holding on to them. We can be examples/role models to them at a distance.
Oh and by the way, I prayed for a long time one night regards a certain person until I felt relief. The next morning, I was informed the person was moving out. Whoohoo!! PTL for that one. YIPPPPEEEE!!!!!!!!!! It was an answered prayer with great results. YOU BET!!!
February 5, 2012
Well, Today was a very good day. I read the bible to my grandchildren, we sang, we praised the LORD. They were repeating every word after me (not like the row row row your boat song). I already knew that children mimmic what they see, if they like what they see. It was a blessing to me for them to praise the LORD with me, to discuss the bible as I read it to them. I try to make it a habit to do the same things when they come over as to have some memories they can remember "Grandma" by. I want my grandchildren to say, thank you GOD for my Grandmother and her example. I want to please the LORD with how I am in every way in my life. I feel fortunate that not only I but, their other grandmother serves and loves the LORD as well. Its such a blessing to know that they are getting spiritually feed and taught on both sides of the family. What I have learned is that, more than anyone else in this world, it is family (and that is church family too) that watches us the most. The words that are coming to my mind are "Watch and See". That is exactly what family (and church family) do, they watch and see. So with that being said, Let us, Watch our own actions so all those around us can see and glorify our Father in Heaven. Thank you for stopping by, "Learning as I Go"..
November 2, 2012
WOW!!!!
Time sure does fly when life is filling my bowl with lemons, but, lucky for me THE LORD turned it into lemonade. I faced constant job rejections to the point I was wondering what was wrong with me. Lucky for me, I got passed all that mess. My last rejection from an interview with a law firm I decided to stop searching for work (no, I haven't chosen to be one of those lazy moochers either). I have employment, I work 6 days a week and then some. I don't have time to myself, well, okay, this is some time to myself to type into cyberspace/cyberworld. From December 26, 2011 to this present day. I must say, I have learned and earned much valued information (I call these "GOLD NUGGETS") that I am going to share with you. Allow me to outline this for you.
1. If a person continues to do what they've always done, not only will they get what they've always got but, it will end up worse (if they are choosing the wrong) or it will end up bigger and better (if they are choosing to do what is right).
2. Teach the teens to date for 1-3 years before getting married and don't go on dates alone, go with a group (and keep their virginity intact too). This way they will know exactly what the other person is like and the truth will eventually show (unless they are conartist and can live in deceit that long. Let's just hope there isn't anyone out there like that).
3. No one in this world can make you happy. Only GOD and you can do that. So do not expect anyone to 'complete you', 'make you happy', 'be your night and shining armour', or 'be the leader' in your life. Your happiness depends entirely upon what choices YOU make.
4. We should never hope or expect something to get done by someone else when we know we can do it just as fast. JUST DO IT ourself. Don't wait. Because it can be just about guaranteed it won't happen the way we expected.
5. Live alone for at least 6 months to a year we might find that we like our life better that way. If not, we should get a roommate, not a live in companion that shares our same bed. We should not have to allow or tolerate a moral decline to take place in our life by compromising our selfworth just for companionship. It's not worth it.
6. A person should not take on more than they are able to handle.
7. NO adult should have to be forced to support another adult. Make the other adult responsible for their own well being, to pull their own weight.
8. Do not try to help someone change. It's not our responsibility, it's not our right, we only have control over what we do not what the other person does.
9. Be honest and truthful in everything we do as individuals even when others around us are not.
10. Do not expect anything of anyone.
11. Stay as far away from loans, credit cards, anything that has to do with charging or promising to pay. IT IS A TRAP we may never get out of.
12. KEEP OUR LIVES AS PRIVATE AS POSSIBLE because privacy has deminished and the privacy laws are deminishing too. (FB, LI, TW, MS, and other social networks are not what they seem to be.) If its free in this world we are actually paying for it in some other form, fashion, or way. It seems that if our lives are private, it creates paranoia with some leaders the reason for that is because they aren't being honest.
13. Be nice to everyone we meet. Doesn't mean we have to like them or befriend them, it just means to be nice and polite.
14. Do not sign anything without reading ALL the fine print. If we don't understand what it means then find a reasonable rated attorney to break it down into the language we fully understand.
15. If we hired an attorney, we must make sure and clarify with him that he knows and is fully aware that he works for us, not the other way around, not his self or the other party. Attorneys earn their pay just like everyone else and they can be fired just the same way too. Don't be bullied or afraid to tell your hired attorney that. If we do not understand an attorney's contract then demand that hired attorney to rewrite the contract clearly in words that are understandable and do not except anything less.
16. In the workplace the same rules that apply to us, must be applied to every coworker alike. Otherwise it is considered bias and discremitory.
17. Never give up, quit, or leave because of the office bully. Fight back righteously! (something to remember and smile at: The boomerrang effect - What goes around comes back around! And that's biblical so that can be banked/trusted/counted on! It's promised. YOU BET!!!)
18. Help others but do not become an enabler. It causes more grief to ones soul and peace of mind.
19. We do not have to tell anyone anything. If a person makes us feel compelled to devuldge/give out information, we should step back quickly, take a breath and ask, "Why do you need to know?". Irregardless of their answer we don't have to give out information we don't want to. So, then inform that person as politely as possible that that information is not for them to know. Then walk away.
20. We should never ever allow ourselves to be intimidated by anyone.
oh, and one last one,
21. There will always be people watching. ... So just be polite and watch back. No no no, I'm kidding, Just kidding. Live your life in such a way that they want what goodness they see in you.
Okay I'm going to bed now folks. Any questions? want to add your thoughts or what you've learned?
***Gold Nugget**** (a bit of pertinent information worth its weight in gold. see below)
Do not sign any papers at a hospital for someone else. No matter what the hospital staff may tell you it is for. DO NOT VOLUNTEER YOUR INFORMATION OR SIGNATURE!! DO NOT FEEL COMPELLED TO SIGN OR GIVE ANY OF YOUR INFORMATION. It doesn't matter what that hospital staff, nurse or doctor tells you. Just kindly tell the hospital and their staff that, "The person admitted as a patient needs to read and sign all those papers and let the patient give any information that might be needed to know about the patient." After that walk away from those asking you to do such.
I learned that (by an insurance person), if you sign anything, anything that just may make you responsible for the bills as well as the patient (if not possibly more responsible than the patient). So please, if, you are not the patient then, keep your names, phones numbers, and any information of yours off the patients records/information sheets and the hospital's computer systems. The hospital may send the bill to you and may try to make you pay the patients hospital bills . Or they may call you until either you get an attorney after them to FORCE them to leave you alone or you change your phone number. Play it safe. If you have to, just give the patients name and information and walk away. They are in hospital care now. Not yours. ***I learned this from an insurance agent. This is what I learned from (and more) from December 26, 2011 - today.
March 3, 2013 SUNDAY
Hello all you lovelies out there in cyberworld. It has been super busy and super fast (time wise) last year. An entire year has flown by and I have had nothing to say. I thought alot but, never made it to Weebly to jot it down. Hmmm, what to say, what to say.....
I learned that college is NOT fun and it is expensive too. Not a good choice to do when economy is flunking tremendously in the world. What I have learned last year is the littlier I have in material gain the happier I am (I don't need a big/small expensive vehicle to get around in - NEVER HAD ONE- would like one but don't need one and refuse to pay a fortune for a vehicle that will be tremendously less in price in 5 years anyway. The used vehicles are just fine by me. And NOT sold by a dealership/salesman - who are called "Vultures" and rightly so, they all come to a person at once BEFORE a person even gets out of the car.) Oh one more thing about vehicles, if it cost the price of a home then it should have ALL the amenities that a home has in it. Otherwise, it's just a label. I learned alot of people are label people.
What other people's material gain, says to me, especially when the young people have them,
1. Self centered spoiled rotten brat.
2. I want you to think I have alot even though I am secretly DROWNING in debt.
3. Moocher.
4. I am unhappy, never satisfied, so I have to have more and more and more and................
5. The person really does have that kind of money and hopefully they are actually really happy. (but only GOD knows the heart)
March 14, 2013 Thursday
Well, Hi. This has been a completely strange week beginning with Sunday. I didn't exactly get that nice warm welcome at church, in fact, I felt as if I was being avoided. Well if so then that is life. If not, it was really an off day and maybe I need to check myself. I didn't go to work all last week. Why do people call every single day wanting to know if the sick person is coming in when they know the person is sick and can't come in? Here's my thoughts on that, the employer must think they can do some kind of analysis over the phone of the sick person (Doctor Employer, right?) and tell if they are sick enough to be at home or not, all just by what? The irritation in their voice by being woke up by a phone ringing or someone at the door? I do not believe employers care if their employee is sick or not. I really don't. I believe they just want their employee at work making them money. But, on the flip side of the coin, people need a job to pay their bills (unless they are moochers and I've already touched that subject) and employers need people to make them more money. Its a circle.
It kind of reminds me of the experience I had with a UPS woman that came to my door one day. This woman, she literally banged on my door and banged on my door and would not leave my door until I answered it. Then she ask me about my address and name on a box, I asked her, what is the name and address on the box, she told me. I was livid, I told her that is not my name or my address. And slammed the door shut. That was the stupidest thing I have ever witnessed, I think. Was she really a moron? My answer, possibly. I'm sure UPS trucks have GPS' in their trucks so the drivers won't get lost. UUUGGH. I wonder if she is still "gainfully" employed.
Anyway, I was so weighed down from being sick it was almost down right depressing (ever felt that sick?). By Friday of the week before I had had enough and only wanted to go home and go to bed. It was bad for me.
Now what I really need is a vacation, a REAL vacation. I haven't had one of those in 17 years. Never could afford it. But if you are an employer reading this, consider yourself lucky because you can take vacation time any time you want, as many times as you want, whenever and whereever you want. That is the luxury you have to being the employer. I do not ever want to hear of an employer complain about not having enough time to do what they want to do because that is a flat out and all out lie from the very pits of Hell, so throw that lie back in Hell and and allow the truth to come forth from your lips/mouth.
Here's something else I've learned,
Employers are "at will" kind of people, they hire "at will", they write people up "at will", they fire people "at will", they say things to their employees that they ought not to "at will". I've learned every employer has their "pet" hires. My mother calls people like that - suck ups. The kind of people who will hurt other people to get to where they want to be, who pretend to be nice. Here's some very good advice from my mother about the work force, I will pass it along to you. Remember this, "Those people are not your friends, they are not your family. They will look after themselves first and screw you in the process." As much as I do not like to say it, my mother was right, and it doesn't matter what type of employment it is. My mom is still right. I've seen things go on in the work force that would normally and literally shut a company down or cause enough legal issues to make them wish they had done things right and enforced the employees to do what was right too. But, unfortunately, that is not how it works. There is an unspoken rule - employees just keeps their mouths shut, do their work and they won't get fired. Some bosses go as far as taking up for the person in the wrong and telling the other person, "If you want to quit you can, you can be replaced." It doesn't matter where you work, people will test you, try you, push you, walk all over you and if they know you need your job the grief will only multiply. My mother has also told me to keep my personal life separate from my job life, don't talk to people. But, I have learned bosses have a way of meddling or saying the right things that make a person feel threatened about their job.
I hear many people telling people of stories where they told their bosses off. Personally, I have never in all my life witnessed one single person telling their bosses off. I think it's all lies and wishful thinking. It would be nice if we could at times to get those closed minded bosses to see, hear and listen. But, that is not the way it works most of the time.
I personally for one do not care for some people at my employment. They are not following policy; the boss knows it and doesn't give a hoot and everyone can clearly see this. That's what mom calls..... never mind. Well, l that is okay because I am not there for those people. I go to earn a paycheck and that is it. I am not there to make friends. As mom says, "Those people are not your friends." So true. I have literally seen someone do others wrong just to get to where they want to be and now, that person is worse than before. The very rules that this person is to enforce is breaking them. I guess in a sense, it is like many other leaders in America. They make laws but, do not abide by them. Some others, they are to enforce the laws but are the very ones that break the laws. Truly messed up.
I remember I went by this one job's schedule to the Tee (it worked for me) and I still got in trouble because the schedule they had written out and posted didn't work for others. GO FIGURE!!! In this, I've learned that in certain places their policies are only for convienance. It's not there to follow until they want to get rid of someone or move them to a different department. I have never seen a company that goes strictly by policy for all personnel/staff. Does it truly exist, I doubt it. Even in the place of employment where a person would expect those dignities to be held, they are not. Believe me when I say this, they are not. Even those whom you would expect to be honest and abiding by the policy or their own policy, let me say," With all caution, BEWARE! It does not happen that way anywhere."
If you intend to be the one to set the good example be prepared for battle in the workforce. Keep a smile on your face as long as you can (when you feel like punching their lights out, had just all you can take - smile big, be even nicer and smooth that butter over them real good because they are bound to fall flat on their faces one day), do your job by the book, by the policy, and well, all I can say is let GOD take care of the rest. Put on your full armor it will be a very hard, bumpy, exhausting and trying road battle but, eventually somewhere, sometime down that long road it should pay off. And if you are handicapped or disabled in any way, shape or form be armed with preparation, put on your armor having extra armor, because that road will be even harder for you. I hope in the end it will be rewarding for you, I will not say it will because it is your road and you have to fight it. I just want to help you be ready for the next ride on the road.
There is something about being "gainfully employed" that changes people in the workforce. Whether they are the owners, supervisors, or just another employee/coworker. It seems like that have a false sense of security in their business or job. Some intentionally pick on or hurt others to the breaking point to get what they want. Those are what I call "Workforce Bullies" and they are immature and insecure. It always seems they get away with it. Unfortunately, to keep peace some people would just rather quietly quit and walk away when they are consistantly attacked by those types of people. Why is that? Why?
I have only once seen a person quit their job because they didn't want to train another person to do something they said the other person wasn't qualified to do. The response from the Vice President of that company, that made them quit was "How will they learn if they are not taught?" I just sat back with WOW going through my mind. That person must have felt so threatened by it because they gathered up all their stuff and left. I watched the whole scene in shock. "I thought to myself, Why did they do that? That was stupid. Why didn't they want to train the person. What is the harm? It would have brought on great respect to themselves for training that person. What is wrong with that person? That is horrible. How terrible. " I guess I was young and didn't understand the unspoken rules. Honestly, I still don't understand those kinds of unspoken rules. Obviously, it shouldn't even be considered a rule if it is unspoken. Just my opinion of the situation. Idiots make up those kind of rules.
Life is strange sometimes. I've learned that some people want to tell others what to do but they don't want to follow their own words. Those are the hypocrites. It is not judging, I don't think, I believe it is calling it like it is. Even Jesus Christ stood up and called it like it was in His days on earth. It made a lot of people mad but, it was only the very ones that felt threatened by Him exposing them. Sometimes exposing the wrong, in other words, bringing the darkness to light, brings about grave consequences to the one who exposed it but, at least what is not right has been told and after that there is nothing more a person can do. Exposing the wrong doesn't always mean it will be mended, it just means someone knows that is was wrong and mentioned it. It's out in the open. If nothing gets done about it then that should tell anyone what type of work environment they have found themselves in.
I used to pray for a certain job, in fact I have prayed twice for a certain job and received those certain jobs because I somehow thought in my mind that nothing could go wrong because everyone there is nice, honest, and doing what is right and good. So, I thought. Well, that is where I learned (both times) that in those places it could be far worse than working anywhere else? Why is that? I do not know, well, I think I do but, here is another way of looking at it, its perception. Do not be deceived by what you see or think you see because what you think you see isn't really what you are seeing. Make sense? What goes on behind the scenes is the truth that lies at the door just waiting to get out into the open. Looks are deceiving, I know, I've been there TWICE now.
One more thing before I wrap it up for the night and send this back out into cyberspace. This is a piece of advice, a suggestion and hopefully something to help the next person avoid.
Be very careful what you pray for, know exactly what you are getting yourself into, do research on it, ask people, find people who know, get as many opinions as you can then decided. Do not go into it blindly asking/praying for something you don't really know the "behind the scenes" scenerio because what you pray for, you very well just might get it.
Do not get into that trap thinking all people are nice, even the ones who are supposed to be. People from all walks of like can deceive others into thinking how nice they are when they are not. I KNOW by experience.
Here's a good way to pray for that certain job or certain thing (asking believing that it is done):
Dear LORD thank you for being a GOD who knows all things, I praise you because you know all things and have your perfect will and plan for my life. I would like to do this certain thing or have this certain thing but, LORD you know everything what is good and what is not good. Please open wide the eyes of my understanding clearly to see the truth of what I want or would like to do and whether you want me to do it or not. LORD, lead me in a plain path and let the trap of the enemies that was originally set for me turn back on the enemy and let the enemy fall into its own trap. LORD, I want to do your will and make you happy and smile. Please help me to do this by your strength. Thank you LORD for hearing my prayer and answering it regarding this/these thing/s. In Jesus Christ name I pray, Amen.
****GOLD NUGGET****
People you work with are not your friends.
Goodnight all.
March 15, 2013
Today was a good and nice day. One of the persons giving me grief at my employment was gone today. Oh the joy that rang throughout those hours. It was nice. I'm counting the days until I leave. What a blessing it will be. I will, of course, have mixed emotions because my bosses are pretty much nice people. But, it is all for the best. When things don't change something has to give. I give. I'm MOVING ON UP!!!!!
Now I so much to prepare for. Things to set up, get ready prepare. Providing that all this is in GOD's plan for my life. I don't know that yet. Just waiting for an answer but, preparing getting everything ready. It's exciting preparing and getting things ready but, if the answer is no, well of course, it will hurt and sting alittle but, I can move on to whatever The LORD's plans are for my life.
Okay, next subject. I found out, by experience, if a person eats junk food, A LOT of it, that mess will ZAP a persons energy quicker than slick. I do know how people could eat junk food all day and night and I do know the effects of it. I just experienced it this week. I ate so much junk all this week, I have been literally zomped. Yep, zomped. No energy. Just typing is hard to stay awake. So, I've decided to go on a semifast. To detox my body of toxins of the junk food. Oh yeah, I even felt and seen (not literally) the warning flags pop up. MERCY and I kept eating the stuff. Junk food sure is goooood but it is poison to ones own body. eooooooow! I want to take a nap but, if I take a nap I'm going to miss some hours of sunshine. I don't want to do that. I like the beauty of the Sunshine.
Oh LET THE SUNSHINE IN FACE US WITH A GLOW PUT A SMILE ON FACE AND LET EVERYBODY KNOW. OH LET THE SUNSHINE IN.......
Okay moving right along. I didn't even take my sinus pill today. I truly do not like medicine. How I see it is Doctors are "practitioners" we are the object of experiment. They win some they loose some. I know of one emergency room doctor and nurse that are complete quacks! Literally. That's another story all in itself. I will have to tell you some day. Don't know when but, I wil.
My honey is cooking dinner tonight we will be having meatloaf. Hmmm, meatloaf. Whoo, this tiredness it getting to me. Okay, I'm going to get some zzzzzzz......naw. I will just get up and walk around a bit.
HAPPY FRIDAY!
March 16, 2013
People can be cruel, mean spirited, and very hurtful. Why do people have children if they don't want them? Why do other people work so hard to destroy another person's happiness? Why do people take away things from other people that meant the most to them. Why? Well, those answers I do not have. I understand but, where does the forgiveness come in with the constant hurt? How does a person completely heal from consistant hurts? Do they just become numb functioning people in society and keep going? How does a person find love? What is love? Where does it come from? Well, I'm told GOD is love. HE IS, I won't doubt that. But, how does one obtain happiness amongst those who are consistantly hurtful? If a person has money, and material things then they can embellish in that and forget about it and bury it. But, if a person is sensitive, hasn't enough money but, enough to barely get by, it doesn't work. Some people can have nothing, absolutely nothing can be perfectly content, happy, full of joy, love, hope, faith, kindness, goodness, and so on and so forth. I have yet to meet a person like that on this earth. But, anyway, I'm getting side tracked.
I don't have the answers. I don't know the answers. Even when I had money I had problems. And I still have problems. Problems just don't go away. They stay until resolved then a person gets a new set of problems. Life is full of problems. I don't understand certain groups of people, a person is supposed to go to them and get help, answers, directions, love, support (not financial) but instead that certain group of person turns them away because a person has problems. Really, NO ONE wants to hear or know about someone else's problems unless it is a success story. So that is why there are so many lost people, so many angry people, so many hurt people, and so many people alone. People just do care. I watched some of a movie (never really been one to sit through an entire movie unless at a movie theater) the other night and this person that was playing a foreigner in the movie to the American, "You American's are stupid. There is something happening around you on T.V. you just change the channels because you don't want to see the truth or what is going on." It's truth, not the American's are stupid but, American's don't want to see reality. They want to live in their comfortable little world they are in. Which in turns spoils the person and ruins them to reality. America is in trouble and it seems to be getting only worse.
Some people have been enabled by enablers. Sad. Because that causes dysfunction in that person. Prison Systems are enablers, some mothers are enablers, welfare system is an enabler, some dads are enablers, our government are enablers, some family members are enablers. I think it has to do alot with wanting to be in control of another persons life. Why else would they enable a person?
What to do about an enabler that enables a person? I don't know, I honestly don't know. They are the problem that creates bigger problems. How to stop them, remove the enabler away from the enablee and teach the enablee to learn to function in life on their own. What to do if an enablee forces a person to become an enabler because the enablee refuses to go to work and become a responsible, functioning person in life (especially if those persons are married), I don't know. One could try to separate themselves from the enablee that forces someone else to provide for them because they are full of excuses why they can work, do things in and around the home. But, when a enablee (let's start with calling that type of enablee a lazy moocher because that is exactly what that type of enablee is. A lazy moocher). So when a lazy moocher (LM) pretends to be a good person until LM has the working person in the clutches of their claws - marriage - then life becomes miserable for both.
March 20, 2013
Well, today I learned, even those people whom you think (should be able to) you can trust, you can not. What is there to say to a person who lies to you through their teeth and doesn't tell the truth. Absolutely nothing. Let them make a fool out of themselves, let them keep talking their lies, they will stumble and fall on their face eventually. Like I told my exboss one time, "Pride comes before the fall", at least that's the way I've always heard it. And it has been proven so far. I, unfortunately, witnessed this previous boss' having to leave the company and it was a sad terrible thing. There is "payback time in the end and we all have to face it alone" and that is scarey. But unfortunately, we seem to forget that. No one is untouchable. Everyone has a soul and where that soul goes is completely up to the individual of the soul. Some live lives allowing themselves to be deceived. Please check yourself and make sure that you are not in that catagory. Find a preacher to preaches the truth and then talk to him. Normally, it is the wealthly that live deceived lives but, don't be fooled. It could be anyone of us. Deceit is a sin that runs rampant everywhere, in religion, cults, politics, upper, middle and lower class, rich and poor, the most prominent or the least. Deceit has no boundries it attacks at will. It grabs hold of the one least prepared or most prepared, it doesn't matter and whispers in its victims ear and says things that ought not to be said. Conviences the listener to believe the lie. Then the person deceived doesn't even know their deceived because they are deceived. Chronically saddening.
My question for today is, Why does a person who owns a company, who runs the company, is supposed to be a role model for employees, the younger generation employees, lie straight to their employees faces, don't bat an eye at the lie, and continues on as if nothing is wrong and doesn't even see that the employee sees straight through the lie? Why not be honest and tell the truth? Why lie? I just don't get it. I don't ever want to be put into a position where I have to lie again. I won't do it. I don't do it for family, I taught my children to tell the truth or don't say nothing at all. If a person can't speak the truth in love or just speak the truth then, they should keep their mouthes shut. That is how I see it. Because not only do they hurt the person, they have caused more damage than what is already there.
I've learned that lying hurts people and the person that gets hurt the most is usually the liar (in the end at least anyway). Please people, just belly up and speak the truth. Sometimes it's hard but, lying causing more harm than good. People get hurt and when someone hurts someone so deeply is it hard to win that person back. Whether it is a friend, a family member, a church goer, an employee, coworker, etc.... It is a wound that has been made into that person. And if someone continues to lie ( lie because they may think they are pacifying the situation) to a person not knowing the person sees right through the lie then, it is like pouring salt on wound that is already bad. That person may forgive but forgetting the hurt of the lies will be the hardest especially if they see how this person treats others. People know when they are lied to. People know. So, if you are a hybitual liar seek help to stop because you are hurting people and eventually in the end, you will be the one hurt and alone. If you are the one getting hurt, start standing up for yourself and tell that person that what that person did to you was wrong. You are a human being just like them and you deserve better than that. If they don't listen and it's your supervisor, employer, boss then start seeking other places to work. Ask friends that you don't work with and that do not hang with people you work with if they know of openings elsewhere (please do not quit your job until you have employment elsewhere and do not let your boss, supervisor or coworkers know your plans. These people - They are NOT your friends, I repeat, they are NOT your friends.) They will cut you through the heart quicker than slick and leave you bleeding and hurt because they do not care about you, your feelings, your emotions, or anything about you. Metaphorically speaking, they would rather see you bleed than talk the truth to you. Just label them as a liar and move as soon as soon as possible and, yes, pray for them. And be nicer than nice to them.
Sure everyone wants to have friends, but, unfortunately most friends can not be found at the work place. You may have a friend that will enter your work place but, hopefully there is a mutual understanding that you two are friends first and your respect for each other over rides the stupidity of the workplace childishness, if there is any in the work place.
Well that about wraps of my lesson to myself for today. I hope that maybe I've helped someone out there in cyberworld in a positive way. I try not to leave negativity because I want people built up and not brought down. You are a person, a human who deserves to be treated with respect, with love, with dignity, and with honesty. Do not except anything less. If it is less, move on.
MAY 21, 2013
Howdy. I don't have anything to say, I'm too tired. But, I will say this, "I have a lot of typing to do because I have learned a whole lot since the last time I wrote on weebly.
May 10, 2014
Hello Cyberworld, and how are you this year? Almost one year to the date since I have last blogged. So much has happened in my life since then. Much in government, politics, life in general. It's good to be back here. I have learned quite a bit, academically, socially, privately, and as an employee and a thinker.
I have learned that some people may never changed but, also learned to not give up hope. Like I said previously, it is not my business if the person doesn't want to change. That is their business. Don't get caught up in their hatred. The same goes for the unforgiving, embittered, hard hearted person. There are some people who do not want to moved forward, to forgive, to restore, to renew, to rebuild. They don't want to obey GOD in that area of their life at that time in their life. And hey, that is their choice. Don't feel sorry for the person, pray for them and pray for yourself that you allow GOD to lead you and guide you on the right path because difficult is the way. Yes, that is what the bible says. So do judge them. Just wait for them prayerfully and go about your life's business. See, the more you try to 'fix it' or 'fix the person' yourself the more that person becomes hateful, bitter, sullen and resentful. Let them be. If they want to be that way, as the saying goes, "Let them eat that cake." That is completely their business. Continue to forgive the person who is milking, feeding, their hurt or anger believe it or not, The LORD is working on them just like He worked on you. It is all in GOD's timing not ours. Just remember that. All in GOD's timing.
Academically, I have been going to college for now, 3 semesters. Let me tell you something. It is hard when a person is older. The younger do not have a hard time remembering things as the older ones do. I personally think that all colleges should have those courses segregated between young and old. The young one continue in the courses like that are and the older one have courses that are a bit slower allowing the older persons to soak it all in. Because have test every day or every other day, or every week is hard on the older person because for one, they have to work to support their family, pay their mortgage and pay for all the necessities there are that the middle aged or older have to do. These young ones fresh out of high school in to college or even dualed high school and college come very easy to the younger ones. It is a challenge to the older generation. Now, yes there are exceptions because I have seen in at the colleges. Some older ones are just blessed beyond measure with sharp minds. For others, we have to build it up.
The reason I am taking college courses is to make a better life for myself in what short period there is left on this earth. I want to pay all my debts off. I know what I must do to do it too. Cut off the cell phones, cut off the internet and only use the colleges' internet, stay focused. But, I should cut the cell phones off I don't need them. Well, okay, sometimes I have to admit a cell phone does come in handy. But, I don't need all the amenities it offers. The world wide web, etc... All I need is phone and texting. That is it. But all those greedy cell phone companies what so much money for a stupid cell phone service, the government wants part of that money too, so they TAX out the ying yang for it. And there is NO such thing as a REAL landline phone anymore, thanks to our paranoic (yes this is a word.) government. I'm not for bashing the government but, the truth is, they have done so much wrong to the people they have created a fear within themselves that has grown so much that they live afraid of the people and are making laws that show their paranoia. They claim it is for our good but, NO one has bought into their lies that are created from their own paranoia. How sad. Other than that, I will always continue to respect them and their laws they create as long as it does not clash with my beliefs. And they are already doing that with this new healthcare law that they enacted without reading it thoroughly. Why do men sign things they do not read? It is stupid. The stupidest thing I heard by one of them is, "we have to sign the bill in order to find out what is in it." That was the most unintelligent thing a person can actually say. Evidently it does show their mentality level too. What a shame.
Okay, no more politics. I have had enough of that. I have seen in the books in college and elementary that they are already starting the brainwashing process with the younger generation. It is sad. I never thought people would stoop so low as to rewrite the educational system to benefit their agenda. Sad, sad, sad. But that is okay. THE TRUTH WILL ALWAYS PREVAIL. They can suppress it for a time but eventually the truth pops back up and smashes the ugly head of the lie. Always has, always will. How I see it is, the truth has to be protected but even if it is squashed down for a bit, it will always come back up. The hollicost will always be remembered in some way, form or fashion. Because the Jews have always been persecuted for something or another even though they did not deserve it. Christians have always been persecuted for their beliefs. Do you want to know why? EVIL, pure evil. Evil thinks it can override the good. It may seem like it does, but truly it does not. Evil is deceived of itself. It doesn't see the truth it only believes a lie. That is what evil is apart of. Lies, deceit, hate, murder, etc.... And it thinks it will prevail in the end but, the truth of fact of the matter is, it won't. It can deceive itself and believe its deceit and live that deceit out but, in the end it destroys itself by its own choice. This world and the things within this world are only temporary.
I have someone very special in my life, who is the most wonderful person and thing that could ever happen to me. This person loves me for who I am. They love me so much that they are willing to wait for me to change. They help me to change and because of the love this person has given me, I am willing to make the necessary changes to make this person happy. This person is the most patient, kind, loving, gentle, understanding, thoughtful, and quiet person I know. Always there when I am in need, even if they are in need and I don't show up they are still there for me. LOVES me with the deepest kind of love. LOVE LOVE LOVE. I hope you have found the one that is just like this.
College is out for the moment, I get maybe about two weeks to myself and then back to school. So with these two weeks or so, I am going to clean, organize and be prepared for FALL SEMESTER. Yes, I did say only about two weeks because I have enrolled in the summer sessions. I am wanting to hurry up and graduate so that hopefully I can have that great paying job before they start forcing everyone to go to the chip implant. I am hoping I won't be here when that happens. My future is now. My hopes are in the man who loves to no end. Okay, back to school subject. The reason I would like to have better is because of the pay, I need more pay. A better paying job so that I can pay all my bills off and hopefully be debt free. That is the goal anyway. I'm not going to worry about the medical aspect of it anymore like I used to. I won't be going to see a doctor, thanks to the new healthcare that has been enacted. I could not afford one then and now from what I am hearing from everyone I surely won't be able to afford one later if I get sick. I will just rely solely on the one who loves me deeper that deeply.
My partner is watching the real Apollo 13 on Youtube right now. The documentary is old. Looks like it was in the 70's. It brings back sadness. I wonder if it was a set up. Everything is a set up, right??? Of course not. Don't buy into that lie please. That is what makes people go insane. I would think. Or possibly creates paranoia. Who knows. It just happened. A terribly tragedy that could have been avoided but, no one knew. No, one.
I find myself falling asleep as I am writing to you all out there in Cyberspace. I have much to say but, will not be able to type it all down tonight I am falling asleep.
I leave you with a question:
How do you see the world in a couple of years?
Goodnight. Signing out at 11:30pm
As I sip my tea (and as you drink your tea, coffee, or whatever beverage relaxes you), and I type away on this site, I wonder truly who will read what I have written. Maybe nobody, maybe one person, who knows. I will be typing as often as I can for, not only, myself but, many out there. I don't know if I what I type will help anyone or not but, I do hope so. Maybe to help someone have a better, possibly happier life. Truly, only time will tell. I will publish things as they come to me, I will answer questions to those who ask, unless, to do so would hurt others. I'm not a debater and I will not allow someone to put me in that position. I refuse to argue any points.
People are given FREE WILL to make their own choices in life and I respect that because our creator allows 'free will to all on this earth'. I will not push my opinions on others. If someone doesn't agree with what I have to say, that's okay by me, because I do not have to agree with someone either. That is the whole point of being free. To make one's own choices but, remember this as I will also: We all have to live with the consequences of our choices. And my belief is: In the final analysis of my life, it is between GOD and me, only.
So, I began with, Hello to you all and I hope your day is so far been wonderful (if not you might want to sit and analyze your day thus far and see where it goofed up at). I hope this evening finds you all well and quite happy too! Okay, here I go. I have learned in the last few months (and I laugh as I say this), that not all people will be grateful for the goodwill and love we show them. Nope, in fact, on the contrary. I have learned that some will completely disrespect your generosity and instead show callousness, rudeness, and ungratefulness. It's okay, that's the choice they made. My choice is to immediately forgive and move on with my life (I have to to keep my peace and not be in bondage to anger, bitterness, which leads to hatred). In this recent life's lesson, I remember that there are many people like that in life. They want things for free in life instead of working for it. It doesn't work that way (even though some would 'beg to differ' with me.), at least it is not supposed to. If a person doesn't work, they aren't supposed to be able to eat (but it looks like that is not how it is nowadays. I haven't got one that one together yet in my head because the lazy are rewarded and the working class are penalized. So backwards.). Now, if a person is doing everything they can possibly do to find work......, now that is another topic I will discuss later sometime. I'm talking about the lazy. The ones that seem to act, (or they might be blunt about it) that the people around them owe them a lifestyle of luxury even though they have done nothing to deserve that lifestyle. They are the ones who want to live like Kings and Queens but, do not want to do the hard work to get that lifestyle. They treat everyone around them like servants, drag others down with them. The lazy, are the kind of people who exhaust, exasperate, and irritate others who are good willed, hard working, and earned what they have obtained, to no end. They talk as if they know something but, at end of their speech all that is found in them is they are as bitter. Hmmm, those are the people I want to steer clear of. And yet, it's ironic because I know some personally.
Being angry is one thing but, being bitter is bad. So the lesson learned is do a litte history and research on the person first before opening your life up to them. Some people are meant to be apart of our lives temporarily and we screw it up by holding on to them. We can be examples/role models to them at a distance.
Oh and by the way, I prayed for a long time one night regards a certain person until I felt relief. The next morning, I was informed the person was moving out. Whoohoo!! PTL for that one. YIPPPPEEEE!!!!!!!!!! It was an answered prayer with great results. YOU BET!!!
February 5, 2012
Well, Today was a very good day. I read the bible to my grandchildren, we sang, we praised the LORD. They were repeating every word after me (not like the row row row your boat song). I already knew that children mimmic what they see, if they like what they see. It was a blessing to me for them to praise the LORD with me, to discuss the bible as I read it to them. I try to make it a habit to do the same things when they come over as to have some memories they can remember "Grandma" by. I want my grandchildren to say, thank you GOD for my Grandmother and her example. I want to please the LORD with how I am in every way in my life. I feel fortunate that not only I but, their other grandmother serves and loves the LORD as well. Its such a blessing to know that they are getting spiritually feed and taught on both sides of the family. What I have learned is that, more than anyone else in this world, it is family (and that is church family too) that watches us the most. The words that are coming to my mind are "Watch and See". That is exactly what family (and church family) do, they watch and see. So with that being said, Let us, Watch our own actions so all those around us can see and glorify our Father in Heaven. Thank you for stopping by, "Learning as I Go"..
November 2, 2012
WOW!!!!
Time sure does fly when life is filling my bowl with lemons, but, lucky for me THE LORD turned it into lemonade. I faced constant job rejections to the point I was wondering what was wrong with me. Lucky for me, I got passed all that mess. My last rejection from an interview with a law firm I decided to stop searching for work (no, I haven't chosen to be one of those lazy moochers either). I have employment, I work 6 days a week and then some. I don't have time to myself, well, okay, this is some time to myself to type into cyberspace/cyberworld. From December 26, 2011 to this present day. I must say, I have learned and earned much valued information (I call these "GOLD NUGGETS") that I am going to share with you. Allow me to outline this for you.
1. If a person continues to do what they've always done, not only will they get what they've always got but, it will end up worse (if they are choosing the wrong) or it will end up bigger and better (if they are choosing to do what is right).
2. Teach the teens to date for 1-3 years before getting married and don't go on dates alone, go with a group (and keep their virginity intact too). This way they will know exactly what the other person is like and the truth will eventually show (unless they are conartist and can live in deceit that long. Let's just hope there isn't anyone out there like that).
3. No one in this world can make you happy. Only GOD and you can do that. So do not expect anyone to 'complete you', 'make you happy', 'be your night and shining armour', or 'be the leader' in your life. Your happiness depends entirely upon what choices YOU make.
4. We should never hope or expect something to get done by someone else when we know we can do it just as fast. JUST DO IT ourself. Don't wait. Because it can be just about guaranteed it won't happen the way we expected.
5. Live alone for at least 6 months to a year we might find that we like our life better that way. If not, we should get a roommate, not a live in companion that shares our same bed. We should not have to allow or tolerate a moral decline to take place in our life by compromising our selfworth just for companionship. It's not worth it.
6. A person should not take on more than they are able to handle.
7. NO adult should have to be forced to support another adult. Make the other adult responsible for their own well being, to pull their own weight.
8. Do not try to help someone change. It's not our responsibility, it's not our right, we only have control over what we do not what the other person does.
9. Be honest and truthful in everything we do as individuals even when others around us are not.
10. Do not expect anything of anyone.
11. Stay as far away from loans, credit cards, anything that has to do with charging or promising to pay. IT IS A TRAP we may never get out of.
12. KEEP OUR LIVES AS PRIVATE AS POSSIBLE because privacy has deminished and the privacy laws are deminishing too. (FB, LI, TW, MS, and other social networks are not what they seem to be.) If its free in this world we are actually paying for it in some other form, fashion, or way. It seems that if our lives are private, it creates paranoia with some leaders the reason for that is because they aren't being honest.
13. Be nice to everyone we meet. Doesn't mean we have to like them or befriend them, it just means to be nice and polite.
14. Do not sign anything without reading ALL the fine print. If we don't understand what it means then find a reasonable rated attorney to break it down into the language we fully understand.
15. If we hired an attorney, we must make sure and clarify with him that he knows and is fully aware that he works for us, not the other way around, not his self or the other party. Attorneys earn their pay just like everyone else and they can be fired just the same way too. Don't be bullied or afraid to tell your hired attorney that. If we do not understand an attorney's contract then demand that hired attorney to rewrite the contract clearly in words that are understandable and do not except anything less.
16. In the workplace the same rules that apply to us, must be applied to every coworker alike. Otherwise it is considered bias and discremitory.
17. Never give up, quit, or leave because of the office bully. Fight back righteously! (something to remember and smile at: The boomerrang effect - What goes around comes back around! And that's biblical so that can be banked/trusted/counted on! It's promised. YOU BET!!!)
18. Help others but do not become an enabler. It causes more grief to ones soul and peace of mind.
19. We do not have to tell anyone anything. If a person makes us feel compelled to devuldge/give out information, we should step back quickly, take a breath and ask, "Why do you need to know?". Irregardless of their answer we don't have to give out information we don't want to. So, then inform that person as politely as possible that that information is not for them to know. Then walk away.
20. We should never ever allow ourselves to be intimidated by anyone.
oh, and one last one,
21. There will always be people watching. ... So just be polite and watch back. No no no, I'm kidding, Just kidding. Live your life in such a way that they want what goodness they see in you.
Okay I'm going to bed now folks. Any questions? want to add your thoughts or what you've learned?
***Gold Nugget**** (a bit of pertinent information worth its weight in gold. see below)
Do not sign any papers at a hospital for someone else. No matter what the hospital staff may tell you it is for. DO NOT VOLUNTEER YOUR INFORMATION OR SIGNATURE!! DO NOT FEEL COMPELLED TO SIGN OR GIVE ANY OF YOUR INFORMATION. It doesn't matter what that hospital staff, nurse or doctor tells you. Just kindly tell the hospital and their staff that, "The person admitted as a patient needs to read and sign all those papers and let the patient give any information that might be needed to know about the patient." After that walk away from those asking you to do such.
I learned that (by an insurance person), if you sign anything, anything that just may make you responsible for the bills as well as the patient (if not possibly more responsible than the patient). So please, if, you are not the patient then, keep your names, phones numbers, and any information of yours off the patients records/information sheets and the hospital's computer systems. The hospital may send the bill to you and may try to make you pay the patients hospital bills . Or they may call you until either you get an attorney after them to FORCE them to leave you alone or you change your phone number. Play it safe. If you have to, just give the patients name and information and walk away. They are in hospital care now. Not yours. ***I learned this from an insurance agent. This is what I learned from (and more) from December 26, 2011 - today.
March 3, 2013 SUNDAY
Hello all you lovelies out there in cyberworld. It has been super busy and super fast (time wise) last year. An entire year has flown by and I have had nothing to say. I thought alot but, never made it to Weebly to jot it down. Hmmm, what to say, what to say.....
I learned that college is NOT fun and it is expensive too. Not a good choice to do when economy is flunking tremendously in the world. What I have learned last year is the littlier I have in material gain the happier I am (I don't need a big/small expensive vehicle to get around in - NEVER HAD ONE- would like one but don't need one and refuse to pay a fortune for a vehicle that will be tremendously less in price in 5 years anyway. The used vehicles are just fine by me. And NOT sold by a dealership/salesman - who are called "Vultures" and rightly so, they all come to a person at once BEFORE a person even gets out of the car.) Oh one more thing about vehicles, if it cost the price of a home then it should have ALL the amenities that a home has in it. Otherwise, it's just a label. I learned alot of people are label people.
What other people's material gain, says to me, especially when the young people have them,
1. Self centered spoiled rotten brat.
2. I want you to think I have alot even though I am secretly DROWNING in debt.
3. Moocher.
4. I am unhappy, never satisfied, so I have to have more and more and more and................
5. The person really does have that kind of money and hopefully they are actually really happy. (but only GOD knows the heart)
March 14, 2013 Thursday
Well, Hi. This has been a completely strange week beginning with Sunday. I didn't exactly get that nice warm welcome at church, in fact, I felt as if I was being avoided. Well if so then that is life. If not, it was really an off day and maybe I need to check myself. I didn't go to work all last week. Why do people call every single day wanting to know if the sick person is coming in when they know the person is sick and can't come in? Here's my thoughts on that, the employer must think they can do some kind of analysis over the phone of the sick person (Doctor Employer, right?) and tell if they are sick enough to be at home or not, all just by what? The irritation in their voice by being woke up by a phone ringing or someone at the door? I do not believe employers care if their employee is sick or not. I really don't. I believe they just want their employee at work making them money. But, on the flip side of the coin, people need a job to pay their bills (unless they are moochers and I've already touched that subject) and employers need people to make them more money. Its a circle.
It kind of reminds me of the experience I had with a UPS woman that came to my door one day. This woman, she literally banged on my door and banged on my door and would not leave my door until I answered it. Then she ask me about my address and name on a box, I asked her, what is the name and address on the box, she told me. I was livid, I told her that is not my name or my address. And slammed the door shut. That was the stupidest thing I have ever witnessed, I think. Was she really a moron? My answer, possibly. I'm sure UPS trucks have GPS' in their trucks so the drivers won't get lost. UUUGGH. I wonder if she is still "gainfully" employed.
Anyway, I was so weighed down from being sick it was almost down right depressing (ever felt that sick?). By Friday of the week before I had had enough and only wanted to go home and go to bed. It was bad for me.
Now what I really need is a vacation, a REAL vacation. I haven't had one of those in 17 years. Never could afford it. But if you are an employer reading this, consider yourself lucky because you can take vacation time any time you want, as many times as you want, whenever and whereever you want. That is the luxury you have to being the employer. I do not ever want to hear of an employer complain about not having enough time to do what they want to do because that is a flat out and all out lie from the very pits of Hell, so throw that lie back in Hell and and allow the truth to come forth from your lips/mouth.
Here's something else I've learned,
Employers are "at will" kind of people, they hire "at will", they write people up "at will", they fire people "at will", they say things to their employees that they ought not to "at will". I've learned every employer has their "pet" hires. My mother calls people like that - suck ups. The kind of people who will hurt other people to get to where they want to be, who pretend to be nice. Here's some very good advice from my mother about the work force, I will pass it along to you. Remember this, "Those people are not your friends, they are not your family. They will look after themselves first and screw you in the process." As much as I do not like to say it, my mother was right, and it doesn't matter what type of employment it is. My mom is still right. I've seen things go on in the work force that would normally and literally shut a company down or cause enough legal issues to make them wish they had done things right and enforced the employees to do what was right too. But, unfortunately, that is not how it works. There is an unspoken rule - employees just keeps their mouths shut, do their work and they won't get fired. Some bosses go as far as taking up for the person in the wrong and telling the other person, "If you want to quit you can, you can be replaced." It doesn't matter where you work, people will test you, try you, push you, walk all over you and if they know you need your job the grief will only multiply. My mother has also told me to keep my personal life separate from my job life, don't talk to people. But, I have learned bosses have a way of meddling or saying the right things that make a person feel threatened about their job.
I hear many people telling people of stories where they told their bosses off. Personally, I have never in all my life witnessed one single person telling their bosses off. I think it's all lies and wishful thinking. It would be nice if we could at times to get those closed minded bosses to see, hear and listen. But, that is not the way it works most of the time.
I personally for one do not care for some people at my employment. They are not following policy; the boss knows it and doesn't give a hoot and everyone can clearly see this. That's what mom calls..... never mind. Well, l that is okay because I am not there for those people. I go to earn a paycheck and that is it. I am not there to make friends. As mom says, "Those people are not your friends." So true. I have literally seen someone do others wrong just to get to where they want to be and now, that person is worse than before. The very rules that this person is to enforce is breaking them. I guess in a sense, it is like many other leaders in America. They make laws but, do not abide by them. Some others, they are to enforce the laws but are the very ones that break the laws. Truly messed up.
I remember I went by this one job's schedule to the Tee (it worked for me) and I still got in trouble because the schedule they had written out and posted didn't work for others. GO FIGURE!!! In this, I've learned that in certain places their policies are only for convienance. It's not there to follow until they want to get rid of someone or move them to a different department. I have never seen a company that goes strictly by policy for all personnel/staff. Does it truly exist, I doubt it. Even in the place of employment where a person would expect those dignities to be held, they are not. Believe me when I say this, they are not. Even those whom you would expect to be honest and abiding by the policy or their own policy, let me say," With all caution, BEWARE! It does not happen that way anywhere."
If you intend to be the one to set the good example be prepared for battle in the workforce. Keep a smile on your face as long as you can (when you feel like punching their lights out, had just all you can take - smile big, be even nicer and smooth that butter over them real good because they are bound to fall flat on their faces one day), do your job by the book, by the policy, and well, all I can say is let GOD take care of the rest. Put on your full armor it will be a very hard, bumpy, exhausting and trying road battle but, eventually somewhere, sometime down that long road it should pay off. And if you are handicapped or disabled in any way, shape or form be armed with preparation, put on your armor having extra armor, because that road will be even harder for you. I hope in the end it will be rewarding for you, I will not say it will because it is your road and you have to fight it. I just want to help you be ready for the next ride on the road.
There is something about being "gainfully employed" that changes people in the workforce. Whether they are the owners, supervisors, or just another employee/coworker. It seems like that have a false sense of security in their business or job. Some intentionally pick on or hurt others to the breaking point to get what they want. Those are what I call "Workforce Bullies" and they are immature and insecure. It always seems they get away with it. Unfortunately, to keep peace some people would just rather quietly quit and walk away when they are consistantly attacked by those types of people. Why is that? Why?
I have only once seen a person quit their job because they didn't want to train another person to do something they said the other person wasn't qualified to do. The response from the Vice President of that company, that made them quit was "How will they learn if they are not taught?" I just sat back with WOW going through my mind. That person must have felt so threatened by it because they gathered up all their stuff and left. I watched the whole scene in shock. "I thought to myself, Why did they do that? That was stupid. Why didn't they want to train the person. What is the harm? It would have brought on great respect to themselves for training that person. What is wrong with that person? That is horrible. How terrible. " I guess I was young and didn't understand the unspoken rules. Honestly, I still don't understand those kinds of unspoken rules. Obviously, it shouldn't even be considered a rule if it is unspoken. Just my opinion of the situation. Idiots make up those kind of rules.
Life is strange sometimes. I've learned that some people want to tell others what to do but they don't want to follow their own words. Those are the hypocrites. It is not judging, I don't think, I believe it is calling it like it is. Even Jesus Christ stood up and called it like it was in His days on earth. It made a lot of people mad but, it was only the very ones that felt threatened by Him exposing them. Sometimes exposing the wrong, in other words, bringing the darkness to light, brings about grave consequences to the one who exposed it but, at least what is not right has been told and after that there is nothing more a person can do. Exposing the wrong doesn't always mean it will be mended, it just means someone knows that is was wrong and mentioned it. It's out in the open. If nothing gets done about it then that should tell anyone what type of work environment they have found themselves in.
I used to pray for a certain job, in fact I have prayed twice for a certain job and received those certain jobs because I somehow thought in my mind that nothing could go wrong because everyone there is nice, honest, and doing what is right and good. So, I thought. Well, that is where I learned (both times) that in those places it could be far worse than working anywhere else? Why is that? I do not know, well, I think I do but, here is another way of looking at it, its perception. Do not be deceived by what you see or think you see because what you think you see isn't really what you are seeing. Make sense? What goes on behind the scenes is the truth that lies at the door just waiting to get out into the open. Looks are deceiving, I know, I've been there TWICE now.
One more thing before I wrap it up for the night and send this back out into cyberspace. This is a piece of advice, a suggestion and hopefully something to help the next person avoid.
Be very careful what you pray for, know exactly what you are getting yourself into, do research on it, ask people, find people who know, get as many opinions as you can then decided. Do not go into it blindly asking/praying for something you don't really know the "behind the scenes" scenerio because what you pray for, you very well just might get it.
Do not get into that trap thinking all people are nice, even the ones who are supposed to be. People from all walks of like can deceive others into thinking how nice they are when they are not. I KNOW by experience.
Here's a good way to pray for that certain job or certain thing (asking believing that it is done):
Dear LORD thank you for being a GOD who knows all things, I praise you because you know all things and have your perfect will and plan for my life. I would like to do this certain thing or have this certain thing but, LORD you know everything what is good and what is not good. Please open wide the eyes of my understanding clearly to see the truth of what I want or would like to do and whether you want me to do it or not. LORD, lead me in a plain path and let the trap of the enemies that was originally set for me turn back on the enemy and let the enemy fall into its own trap. LORD, I want to do your will and make you happy and smile. Please help me to do this by your strength. Thank you LORD for hearing my prayer and answering it regarding this/these thing/s. In Jesus Christ name I pray, Amen.
****GOLD NUGGET****
People you work with are not your friends.
Goodnight all.
March 15, 2013
Today was a good and nice day. One of the persons giving me grief at my employment was gone today. Oh the joy that rang throughout those hours. It was nice. I'm counting the days until I leave. What a blessing it will be. I will, of course, have mixed emotions because my bosses are pretty much nice people. But, it is all for the best. When things don't change something has to give. I give. I'm MOVING ON UP!!!!!
Now I so much to prepare for. Things to set up, get ready prepare. Providing that all this is in GOD's plan for my life. I don't know that yet. Just waiting for an answer but, preparing getting everything ready. It's exciting preparing and getting things ready but, if the answer is no, well of course, it will hurt and sting alittle but, I can move on to whatever The LORD's plans are for my life.
Okay, next subject. I found out, by experience, if a person eats junk food, A LOT of it, that mess will ZAP a persons energy quicker than slick. I do know how people could eat junk food all day and night and I do know the effects of it. I just experienced it this week. I ate so much junk all this week, I have been literally zomped. Yep, zomped. No energy. Just typing is hard to stay awake. So, I've decided to go on a semifast. To detox my body of toxins of the junk food. Oh yeah, I even felt and seen (not literally) the warning flags pop up. MERCY and I kept eating the stuff. Junk food sure is goooood but it is poison to ones own body. eooooooow! I want to take a nap but, if I take a nap I'm going to miss some hours of sunshine. I don't want to do that. I like the beauty of the Sunshine.
Oh LET THE SUNSHINE IN FACE US WITH A GLOW PUT A SMILE ON FACE AND LET EVERYBODY KNOW. OH LET THE SUNSHINE IN.......
Okay moving right along. I didn't even take my sinus pill today. I truly do not like medicine. How I see it is Doctors are "practitioners" we are the object of experiment. They win some they loose some. I know of one emergency room doctor and nurse that are complete quacks! Literally. That's another story all in itself. I will have to tell you some day. Don't know when but, I wil.
My honey is cooking dinner tonight we will be having meatloaf. Hmmm, meatloaf. Whoo, this tiredness it getting to me. Okay, I'm going to get some zzzzzzz......naw. I will just get up and walk around a bit.
HAPPY FRIDAY!
March 16, 2013
People can be cruel, mean spirited, and very hurtful. Why do people have children if they don't want them? Why do other people work so hard to destroy another person's happiness? Why do people take away things from other people that meant the most to them. Why? Well, those answers I do not have. I understand but, where does the forgiveness come in with the constant hurt? How does a person completely heal from consistant hurts? Do they just become numb functioning people in society and keep going? How does a person find love? What is love? Where does it come from? Well, I'm told GOD is love. HE IS, I won't doubt that. But, how does one obtain happiness amongst those who are consistantly hurtful? If a person has money, and material things then they can embellish in that and forget about it and bury it. But, if a person is sensitive, hasn't enough money but, enough to barely get by, it doesn't work. Some people can have nothing, absolutely nothing can be perfectly content, happy, full of joy, love, hope, faith, kindness, goodness, and so on and so forth. I have yet to meet a person like that on this earth. But, anyway, I'm getting side tracked.
I don't have the answers. I don't know the answers. Even when I had money I had problems. And I still have problems. Problems just don't go away. They stay until resolved then a person gets a new set of problems. Life is full of problems. I don't understand certain groups of people, a person is supposed to go to them and get help, answers, directions, love, support (not financial) but instead that certain group of person turns them away because a person has problems. Really, NO ONE wants to hear or know about someone else's problems unless it is a success story. So that is why there are so many lost people, so many angry people, so many hurt people, and so many people alone. People just do care. I watched some of a movie (never really been one to sit through an entire movie unless at a movie theater) the other night and this person that was playing a foreigner in the movie to the American, "You American's are stupid. There is something happening around you on T.V. you just change the channels because you don't want to see the truth or what is going on." It's truth, not the American's are stupid but, American's don't want to see reality. They want to live in their comfortable little world they are in. Which in turns spoils the person and ruins them to reality. America is in trouble and it seems to be getting only worse.
Some people have been enabled by enablers. Sad. Because that causes dysfunction in that person. Prison Systems are enablers, some mothers are enablers, welfare system is an enabler, some dads are enablers, our government are enablers, some family members are enablers. I think it has to do alot with wanting to be in control of another persons life. Why else would they enable a person?
What to do about an enabler that enables a person? I don't know, I honestly don't know. They are the problem that creates bigger problems. How to stop them, remove the enabler away from the enablee and teach the enablee to learn to function in life on their own. What to do if an enablee forces a person to become an enabler because the enablee refuses to go to work and become a responsible, functioning person in life (especially if those persons are married), I don't know. One could try to separate themselves from the enablee that forces someone else to provide for them because they are full of excuses why they can work, do things in and around the home. But, when a enablee (let's start with calling that type of enablee a lazy moocher because that is exactly what that type of enablee is. A lazy moocher). So when a lazy moocher (LM) pretends to be a good person until LM has the working person in the clutches of their claws - marriage - then life becomes miserable for both.
March 20, 2013
Well, today I learned, even those people whom you think (should be able to) you can trust, you can not. What is there to say to a person who lies to you through their teeth and doesn't tell the truth. Absolutely nothing. Let them make a fool out of themselves, let them keep talking their lies, they will stumble and fall on their face eventually. Like I told my exboss one time, "Pride comes before the fall", at least that's the way I've always heard it. And it has been proven so far. I, unfortunately, witnessed this previous boss' having to leave the company and it was a sad terrible thing. There is "payback time in the end and we all have to face it alone" and that is scarey. But unfortunately, we seem to forget that. No one is untouchable. Everyone has a soul and where that soul goes is completely up to the individual of the soul. Some live lives allowing themselves to be deceived. Please check yourself and make sure that you are not in that catagory. Find a preacher to preaches the truth and then talk to him. Normally, it is the wealthly that live deceived lives but, don't be fooled. It could be anyone of us. Deceit is a sin that runs rampant everywhere, in religion, cults, politics, upper, middle and lower class, rich and poor, the most prominent or the least. Deceit has no boundries it attacks at will. It grabs hold of the one least prepared or most prepared, it doesn't matter and whispers in its victims ear and says things that ought not to be said. Conviences the listener to believe the lie. Then the person deceived doesn't even know their deceived because they are deceived. Chronically saddening.
My question for today is, Why does a person who owns a company, who runs the company, is supposed to be a role model for employees, the younger generation employees, lie straight to their employees faces, don't bat an eye at the lie, and continues on as if nothing is wrong and doesn't even see that the employee sees straight through the lie? Why not be honest and tell the truth? Why lie? I just don't get it. I don't ever want to be put into a position where I have to lie again. I won't do it. I don't do it for family, I taught my children to tell the truth or don't say nothing at all. If a person can't speak the truth in love or just speak the truth then, they should keep their mouthes shut. That is how I see it. Because not only do they hurt the person, they have caused more damage than what is already there.
I've learned that lying hurts people and the person that gets hurt the most is usually the liar (in the end at least anyway). Please people, just belly up and speak the truth. Sometimes it's hard but, lying causing more harm than good. People get hurt and when someone hurts someone so deeply is it hard to win that person back. Whether it is a friend, a family member, a church goer, an employee, coworker, etc.... It is a wound that has been made into that person. And if someone continues to lie ( lie because they may think they are pacifying the situation) to a person not knowing the person sees right through the lie then, it is like pouring salt on wound that is already bad. That person may forgive but forgetting the hurt of the lies will be the hardest especially if they see how this person treats others. People know when they are lied to. People know. So, if you are a hybitual liar seek help to stop because you are hurting people and eventually in the end, you will be the one hurt and alone. If you are the one getting hurt, start standing up for yourself and tell that person that what that person did to you was wrong. You are a human being just like them and you deserve better than that. If they don't listen and it's your supervisor, employer, boss then start seeking other places to work. Ask friends that you don't work with and that do not hang with people you work with if they know of openings elsewhere (please do not quit your job until you have employment elsewhere and do not let your boss, supervisor or coworkers know your plans. These people - They are NOT your friends, I repeat, they are NOT your friends.) They will cut you through the heart quicker than slick and leave you bleeding and hurt because they do not care about you, your feelings, your emotions, or anything about you. Metaphorically speaking, they would rather see you bleed than talk the truth to you. Just label them as a liar and move as soon as soon as possible and, yes, pray for them. And be nicer than nice to them.
Sure everyone wants to have friends, but, unfortunately most friends can not be found at the work place. You may have a friend that will enter your work place but, hopefully there is a mutual understanding that you two are friends first and your respect for each other over rides the stupidity of the workplace childishness, if there is any in the work place.
Well that about wraps of my lesson to myself for today. I hope that maybe I've helped someone out there in cyberworld in a positive way. I try not to leave negativity because I want people built up and not brought down. You are a person, a human who deserves to be treated with respect, with love, with dignity, and with honesty. Do not except anything less. If it is less, move on.
MAY 21, 2013
Howdy. I don't have anything to say, I'm too tired. But, I will say this, "I have a lot of typing to do because I have learned a whole lot since the last time I wrote on weebly.
May 10, 2014
Hello Cyberworld, and how are you this year? Almost one year to the date since I have last blogged. So much has happened in my life since then. Much in government, politics, life in general. It's good to be back here. I have learned quite a bit, academically, socially, privately, and as an employee and a thinker.
I have learned that some people may never changed but, also learned to not give up hope. Like I said previously, it is not my business if the person doesn't want to change. That is their business. Don't get caught up in their hatred. The same goes for the unforgiving, embittered, hard hearted person. There are some people who do not want to moved forward, to forgive, to restore, to renew, to rebuild. They don't want to obey GOD in that area of their life at that time in their life. And hey, that is their choice. Don't feel sorry for the person, pray for them and pray for yourself that you allow GOD to lead you and guide you on the right path because difficult is the way. Yes, that is what the bible says. So do judge them. Just wait for them prayerfully and go about your life's business. See, the more you try to 'fix it' or 'fix the person' yourself the more that person becomes hateful, bitter, sullen and resentful. Let them be. If they want to be that way, as the saying goes, "Let them eat that cake." That is completely their business. Continue to forgive the person who is milking, feeding, their hurt or anger believe it or not, The LORD is working on them just like He worked on you. It is all in GOD's timing not ours. Just remember that. All in GOD's timing.
Academically, I have been going to college for now, 3 semesters. Let me tell you something. It is hard when a person is older. The younger do not have a hard time remembering things as the older ones do. I personally think that all colleges should have those courses segregated between young and old. The young one continue in the courses like that are and the older one have courses that are a bit slower allowing the older persons to soak it all in. Because have test every day or every other day, or every week is hard on the older person because for one, they have to work to support their family, pay their mortgage and pay for all the necessities there are that the middle aged or older have to do. These young ones fresh out of high school in to college or even dualed high school and college come very easy to the younger ones. It is a challenge to the older generation. Now, yes there are exceptions because I have seen in at the colleges. Some older ones are just blessed beyond measure with sharp minds. For others, we have to build it up.
The reason I am taking college courses is to make a better life for myself in what short period there is left on this earth. I want to pay all my debts off. I know what I must do to do it too. Cut off the cell phones, cut off the internet and only use the colleges' internet, stay focused. But, I should cut the cell phones off I don't need them. Well, okay, sometimes I have to admit a cell phone does come in handy. But, I don't need all the amenities it offers. The world wide web, etc... All I need is phone and texting. That is it. But all those greedy cell phone companies what so much money for a stupid cell phone service, the government wants part of that money too, so they TAX out the ying yang for it. And there is NO such thing as a REAL landline phone anymore, thanks to our paranoic (yes this is a word.) government. I'm not for bashing the government but, the truth is, they have done so much wrong to the people they have created a fear within themselves that has grown so much that they live afraid of the people and are making laws that show their paranoia. They claim it is for our good but, NO one has bought into their lies that are created from their own paranoia. How sad. Other than that, I will always continue to respect them and their laws they create as long as it does not clash with my beliefs. And they are already doing that with this new healthcare law that they enacted without reading it thoroughly. Why do men sign things they do not read? It is stupid. The stupidest thing I heard by one of them is, "we have to sign the bill in order to find out what is in it." That was the most unintelligent thing a person can actually say. Evidently it does show their mentality level too. What a shame.
Okay, no more politics. I have had enough of that. I have seen in the books in college and elementary that they are already starting the brainwashing process with the younger generation. It is sad. I never thought people would stoop so low as to rewrite the educational system to benefit their agenda. Sad, sad, sad. But that is okay. THE TRUTH WILL ALWAYS PREVAIL. They can suppress it for a time but eventually the truth pops back up and smashes the ugly head of the lie. Always has, always will. How I see it is, the truth has to be protected but even if it is squashed down for a bit, it will always come back up. The hollicost will always be remembered in some way, form or fashion. Because the Jews have always been persecuted for something or another even though they did not deserve it. Christians have always been persecuted for their beliefs. Do you want to know why? EVIL, pure evil. Evil thinks it can override the good. It may seem like it does, but truly it does not. Evil is deceived of itself. It doesn't see the truth it only believes a lie. That is what evil is apart of. Lies, deceit, hate, murder, etc.... And it thinks it will prevail in the end but, the truth of fact of the matter is, it won't. It can deceive itself and believe its deceit and live that deceit out but, in the end it destroys itself by its own choice. This world and the things within this world are only temporary.
I have someone very special in my life, who is the most wonderful person and thing that could ever happen to me. This person loves me for who I am. They love me so much that they are willing to wait for me to change. They help me to change and because of the love this person has given me, I am willing to make the necessary changes to make this person happy. This person is the most patient, kind, loving, gentle, understanding, thoughtful, and quiet person I know. Always there when I am in need, even if they are in need and I don't show up they are still there for me. LOVES me with the deepest kind of love. LOVE LOVE LOVE. I hope you have found the one that is just like this.
College is out for the moment, I get maybe about two weeks to myself and then back to school. So with these two weeks or so, I am going to clean, organize and be prepared for FALL SEMESTER. Yes, I did say only about two weeks because I have enrolled in the summer sessions. I am wanting to hurry up and graduate so that hopefully I can have that great paying job before they start forcing everyone to go to the chip implant. I am hoping I won't be here when that happens. My future is now. My hopes are in the man who loves to no end. Okay, back to school subject. The reason I would like to have better is because of the pay, I need more pay. A better paying job so that I can pay all my bills off and hopefully be debt free. That is the goal anyway. I'm not going to worry about the medical aspect of it anymore like I used to. I won't be going to see a doctor, thanks to the new healthcare that has been enacted. I could not afford one then and now from what I am hearing from everyone I surely won't be able to afford one later if I get sick. I will just rely solely on the one who loves me deeper that deeply.
My partner is watching the real Apollo 13 on Youtube right now. The documentary is old. Looks like it was in the 70's. It brings back sadness. I wonder if it was a set up. Everything is a set up, right??? Of course not. Don't buy into that lie please. That is what makes people go insane. I would think. Or possibly creates paranoia. Who knows. It just happened. A terribly tragedy that could have been avoided but, no one knew. No, one.
I find myself falling asleep as I am writing to you all out there in Cyberspace. I have much to say but, will not be able to type it all down tonight I am falling asleep.
I leave you with a question:
How do you see the world in a couple of years?
Goodnight. Signing out at 11:30pm